The motherhood juggle. It’s a thing. And managing children with anxiety and overthinking is also a thing.
Is Abby Gilmore all she’s cracked up to be?
There’s a world of social media where we get ourselves engulfed in someone else’s world. Its like a big black hole where we can immerse ourselves in their life and feel like we’re living it with them. We’re intrigued to know what they do, when they do it, how they do it and we even feel like we’re apart of their family. I bet you’ve got a few faves on Instagram you totally stalk don’t you? Hell yeh I do. Sophie Cachia, Abby Gilmore, Zoe Foster-Blake, I Heart Bargains, Mums with Hustle, Celeste Barber, The Real Dads of Melbourne to name a few.
Don’t get your knickers in a knot……its just a cleaner way!
5 Top Tips for Implementing Mindfulness into Your Life
So you keep hearing the word ‘mindfulness’ and wonder how you can implement into your day? Yes, that was me as well two years ago. How can I possibly eat healthy every day, exercise, take time out for myself, meditate blah blah. Well the more I started to implement these little things into my life, the more it became just part of my day. So I practice mindfulness everyday now.
Do you have an inner voice that questions whether you’ve got what it really takes to make your biz successful? That wonders if your biz is actually gonna make it? often plays with your self-belief… that makes you wonder… can I actually do this? Do I believe with 100% certainty that I can and will be successful in my biz?
Me too and it sucks.
But what I want you to realise is that we all have that shitty little inner voice that makes us question ourselves. You, me, and even that super successful entrepreneur you’ve been idolising. ALL of us.
But what separates the big players from the small ones – is the power you give your doubts and what you choose do with them, because it’s this that will affect your results.
And your choices will look a little bit like this:
A) Avoid the feelings and don’t deal with them – but have them impact you nonetheless (FACT);
B) Tackle them head on, lay them to rest and move onwards and upwards.
Now most people will opt for A – because it’s safer and as humans we actively avoid pain and discomfort (aka the comfort zone cling on). However, it’s only when you are able to embrace B, that you will in fact learn and grow in self and business.
You see with most negative emotions there is actually an insight waiting to be uncovered that can help move you out of your discomfort to a better place. In coaching we like to see negative emotions as really just a red flag, a cue so to speak, to let you know something’s not working for you and you need to make some changes
So if you’re experiencing doubts in life or biz, then your message loud and clear is that there are probably some underlying issues to be addressed and you need to learn what those are and then get to work on them.
Let me expand on this further and bring it to life for you:
If you’re plagued with negative self talk like “I can’t do this”, “I don’t have what it takes” “I’m never going to be a successful entrepreneur” – there’s probably some negative belief systems working against you – that if left unchallenged, will continue to hold you back and keep you playing small… potentially for the rest of your life.
Likewise, if you have doubts about your business “I can’t stand out”, “my competitors are better than me,” “my marketing isn’t working”– there’s likely to be holes in your business model, process and / or strategy – or even in your skill set, which will obviously impact your ability to grow your business and be successful with it.
With all of this in mind then – I’m sure you’re beginning to see that perhaps your doubts can actually hold a key to a better place if you choose to lean into them and look to learn what lies beneath them so you can take positive action. Because the flipside (avoidance) really can and will cripple you and your business.
Ok so how do you get up close and personal with your doubts and really look to grow from them? Well it takes time and some work – but I’ve posted some kick ass coaching questions to get you started.
These questions have been designed to help you start thinking about the origins of your doubts and help you begin to challenge and work through them so you can move on and lay them to rest.
- What doubts do you have about yourself and capabilities?
- Where do you believe they originate from (go back as far as you can remember)
- How valid are these doubts really?
- What evidence do you have for them?
- And most importantly what evidence do you have against them?
- How will holding on to this doubt move you toward the life you want?
- What new beliefs around yourself will better serve you in life that you can begin to embrace?
- How will your family benefit if you embrace this new way of thinking?
- What will you choose to believe about yourself moving forward?
If your doubts come from your biz:
- What are the 5 core challenges you are experiencing in business?
- And why specifically are these challenges?
- What areas of your business do you actively avoid and for what reason?
- What steps might you have you missed in your research / planning / strategy?
- Where do you feel you need help?
- What skills are you missing?
- Looking at your answer to the questions above… what can you start to do differently to address your problem areas?
- What goals / targets can you set yourself to fill any skills / knowledge gaps?
As you can see, there’s a lot of food for thought as you work your way through these.
Well ladies, that’s it, the choice is now yours. If you’re holding any doubts at all right now, I urge you to empower yourself and choose to use them as fuel for good – as a tool for life-long change and as a stepping-stone to the outcome you want.
So go lean in, learn and transform your doubts into certainty, assurance and belief and watch your results change.
Here’s to your success – and to you truly believing you can.
Do you have an inner voice that often plays with your self-belief… that makes you wonder… can I actually do this? Do I believe with 100% certainty that I can and will be successful in my So… for the record. We all have that shitty little inner voice that makes us question ourselves. You, me, that person sitting in the room with you. ALL of us.
And don’t even let me get started on mums with this negative Nelly self-talk.
Often, as I well know, we choose to exit the workforce for an extended period so that we can dedicate our time and energy to being present for our littles. And whilst this journey is incredibly fulfilling on so many fronts, we often as a result tend to put everyone else’s needs before our own.
And when it comes to wanting to do anything for ourselves, let alone anything outside of our comfort zones like starting a small biz, well… the act of doing so seems nearly impossible and massively overwhelming…
This Mindset Challenge will have you walking away feeling empowered and ready to kick some massive goals in your biz.
And Owner and Co-founder of Business School for Mums.
Business School for Mums is an online business school designed to help Mums in Business Thrive.
Alongside business and marketing skills – mindset and life coaching sit at the heart of what Anna & her biz partner Flori teach go their students… to ensure that their students have a truly 360 approach to taking their business to success.